Be Confident While Approaching Women

Be Confident While Approaching Women

When you walk up to a girl you like, what goes into your mind? Do you think to yourself, “I wish I had more confidence,” or “why does it hurt so much when I am rejected?” Remember, being confident is a habit. You have the power to stop being nervous and get the girl. However, you have to learn how to do it.
How do you learn confidence?
Here are some simple tips.
Know your goal. The first thing to do is to decide WHY you are going to approach. What is your mission? To get her number? Or get a date? Think about why you are going to do it, write it down, and then look at someone with a clear purpose in mind. You are NOT trying to get a phone number or a date. You are learning confidence.
Understand that you can’t just walk up to a girl and ask her out. You need to be prepared. If you know that you can walk away with her phone number or a date, you are more likely to try. You need to set yourself up with some sort of fallback. You are asking her politely to join you somewhere where you can continue to get to know each other. If you don’t have a pen, or paper available, try to borrow one from someone nearby. If you are loud and smelly (Remember smelling bad makes people nervous?), relax. Nobody is going to be able to hear what it is you say, but you have to be able to state your purpose with confidence.
Pay attention to what she says. If she says anything that makes you think, “Uh oh,” then quickly change the subject. If she is trying to strike up a conversation with you or try to start a conversation with you, quickly change the subject. Be prepared. You cannot be the one who is always the one to initiate a conversation. You will be too boring. If you have noisy garbage at your house, or she is close by, you can politely tell her you are trying to listen to what she is saying and politely excuse yourself. Try to work your way around her insecurities. For example, if she talks about her ex, and there is a little trouble ticket in her past, you can tell her you don’t know much about that topic, and she is probably just bitter. That will annoy her to no end.
Be positive. Nothing makes you go from a confident guy who knows what he wants to a guy who needs everything to go his way. Be positive. Try to see yourself as someone who might experience some difficulties at some point, because it is normal. Nobody is ever going to be perfect 100%. You might make a mistake, otherwise. Take your time, and try not to be too tense. If you still manage to get the girl, you will be learning confidence rather than being uptight and nervous.
There is nothing wrong with being a little nervous when approaching a woman. As long as you are aware of what you are doing and you don’t try to fake your confidence, your nervousness will turn into confidence problems. Always remember that you can make mistakes but learn from them, rather than letting one stand against you. Also, keep in mind that women flirt too. If you don’t use your good flirting skills, you can still get a girl. She might not come right out and tell you, but she may try to give you a hint. You need to learn how to pluck up the courage to talk to a girl too. And remember, you are not the only one who has ever flirted with a girl. Every man in this world has, and you need to make your experience with confidence, and if you can get it, then you will become the confident man you want to be.

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