Dating - What Great Women Know

Dating - What Great Women Know

The most common ask I get in my online dating coaching sessions is – ‘How do I know if a guy is a player?’ And this is coming from a genuinely busy woman who has no time to waste. No – I don’t have time for leisurely fishing in a couple of websites, reading profiles, and snooping around sites for a month or two before I finally decide that a certain guy might be a player.
I am glad to report that at present, I can tell you that there are so many superb men in online dating that you may even be one of them. And, no, I don’t mean genuine quality men, but I am talking about regular men who you may want to spend quite a bit of valuable time with. Anyway, here is how you can tell if a man is a player.
First of all, I am a player too. Okay, not in the sense that I make thousands of women my girlfriends as a player, but I do quite a lot of making friends online, mostly casual relationships. Now, am I a regular dater or a player?
Well, the answer is pretty simple. I spend time on several adult dating sites and also sign up for matchmaking sites and the like. And one thing that you need to remember is that for me to do this, I always check the background of people and their profiles. I also take into consideration a person’s desires and their character – not just their age.
Now when I talk about a player, I am talking about someone who knows how to have a good time without paying too much attention to finding a partner. A player doesn’t want to invest too much time or effort in finding a partner. How much effort does a player make to find a good date? Probably not a lot. But, they also probably don’t make a lot of personal investment either.
A player doesn’t feel too good about themselves. How do I know? Because I have a player’s mentality myself. What do I mean by this? It is as if you believe that any girl who says “no, thanks.” is actually saying “yes, thanks.” I’ve had a couple of female friends telling me that they just want to be friends and have no intention of going out. Well, these did not exactly lie either. These girls felt that they couldn’t really have something with me. So, for the most part, these were a waste of my time. However, in the case of most of my players, I know now that the reason why they are dumping these girls was due to the fact that these girls did not give them enough of an effort. They either didn’t show any interest in seeing them, tried to cut it short or were simply boring. Right now, if you are a player – you probably know what I am talking about. And then, when you are in the company of those amazing women, guys don’t really bother to feel too special. They don’t bother because they know that their time was all taken, and all that extra effort has been completely brushed off.
Now, the other thing that a lot of players do is go on dating sites and sign up for several paid dating sites. Why the attraction to paid dating sites? Probably, all you have to do is look at how many free dating sites there are, and you will realize that there are a ton of them. And what does a bunch of free dating sites cost? A lot less than a few big paid dating sites. And this is exactly why players prefer them over the paid ones. They are gracious enough to join just a few sites rather than having to give all their information when joining the big ones. They also prefer the security and privacy of paid dating sites.

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